I think like most other women, I’ve always been at least somewhat in love with the idea of love. We grow up watching Cinderella, and although I’ve never been the type to want to be the princess, I still always adored the idea of a prince.
The more and more I think about my ongoing desire for “love”, I keep thinking to myself: is my idea of love even close to God’s idea of love? Maybe parts of it have been. Maybe my outlook has changed somewhat since I’ve gotten older. But all in all, is my idea of a love story close to God’s?
I think, generally, our idea of a perfect love story that we create when we’re young, (and perhaps carry out into our adulthood), is the farthest thing from God’s idea of ‘a perfect love story’.
If I get really honest with myself, the heart of the matter is purely selfish. None of my fantasies, except maybe until very recently, have been about serving someone else. That’s not typically what one calls a ‘fantasy’. Every dream I’ve had about ‘love’ has been about fulfilling my hopes and my wants and my needs and my expectations. Sure, maybe since I’ve found God I’ll tell myself that I want someone to serve God with, and that is very true, but my heart still puts a twist on it in which it holds far too many expectations or rules so that it can still cater to my idea of love. It is becoming so evident to me how dangerous this is.
This might be a shot in the dark, so correct me if I’m wrong, ladies, but I think many of us do not let go of the idea of being ‘rescued’ by a man like in the stories we read as a child; even after we learn otherwise. I think a lot of us create these fictional saviors in our heads and get upset when the people around us can’t live up to them, and truthfully, they can’t. I also think some of us think it’s okay to hang onto this idea of a savior because it’s in the name of love, and God is love after all, right? But, my friends, even though God is love and love is from Him, I do not think we should be so quick to assume that the picture of love we have in our heads is the same picture God has had in His all along.
I’m no theologian, and I’m 1,000% open to other ideas, but I think God’s idea of love is Himself. The Alpha and Omega. The beginning and end. I think God’s idea of a perfect love story is having His children be reunited and made new in His image like they were intended to do. I think God’s idea of a perfect love story would be His children finding life in Him and thirsting no more.
This is a hard concept to grasp at times. Perhaps, we keep looking for this fictional savior we created because we can’t seem to really wrap our heads around giving everything to God and finding the fulfillment for this longing we’ve had for so long solely in Him. (Spoiler: it’s okay to feel this way.)
So, now what? Well, I for one, do not think that this is some kind of trust we can muster up on our own, and I believe some Christians truly believe they have to. As if, being a “good Christian” means instantaneously feeling completely comfortable about everything.
To be made new is to walk with Christ, even when we feel like we’re walking in the dark. We do not become perfect, or even close to righteousness on our own. We must continually go to our Savior and ask for help, because we are still a work in progress; I don’t think there is another way to truly be changed and to truly grow. We’re not all-knowing, and we are not self-sufficient. We’re still learning, so we must allow our minds and our hearts to be taught.
But the promise is not void. He says, “I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst.”
I think that those of us who are still trying to fill a void on our own know deep down that we’re not getting far. I urge you to talk to Him, to ask for understanding and to ask Him to change your hearts. We are His beloved, and I think it’s about time we start letting Him truly be our God and shape us into His children; from Him and through Him alone, so that we may have life and have it to the full.
I think He wants that, too. I think we’re already in a far greater love story than we could’ve ever imagined.
"For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, 39 nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39
"And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him.” 1 John 5:14-15
Side note: This is not to say that marriage isn’t godly or good to want, this post is to say that marriage is not God. Marriage is a gift from God, and we often look at it as a savior rather than what it is: a gift. I didn’t want to talk too much about this, because I am not married, so I won’t talk too in depth about something I don’t know a whole lot about.
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"Every faculty you have, your power of thinking or of moving your limbs from moment to moment, is given you by God. If you devoted every moment of your whole life exclusively to His service you could not give Him anything that was not in a sense His own already. So that when we talk of a man doing anything for God or giving anything to God, I will tell you what it is really like. It is like a small child going to its father and saying, ‘Daddy, give me sixpence to buy you a birthday present.’ Of course, the father does, and he is pleased with the child’s present. It is all very nice and proper, but only an idiot would think that the father is sixpence to the good on the transaction."
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#c.s. lewis #mere christianity